March 20, 2012
In the song “Beautiful Boy” John Lennon said:
Life is what happens to you
While you’re busy making other plans
I want to add that Life also happens while we are stuck in the past. We tend to overthink of offences, regrets, losses, occurred some time ago, and lose connection to reality.
Maybe, it is better to follow another quote from the same song:
Before you cross the street
Take my hand
Trust to somebody or something around you, because it can be Hand or/of Life…
October 21, 2011
In the book “The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want”, by Sonja Lyubomirsky, I found good theoretical basics and practical recommendations about Happiness homeostasis.
Our Happiness consists of the following three components:
Set Point, 50% – genetically/society determined happiness level.
Intentional Activities, 40% – how we behave, what we think, and what goals we set every day of our life.
Circumstances, 10% – the variance in our happiness levels is explained by differences in life circumstances or situations – that is, whether we are rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, beautiful of plain, married or divorced, etc.
While we cannot change share of Set point, we have some control over Circumstances. But we have full control over Intentional Activities component.
The book elaborates how we can exercise that control:
1: Expressing Gratitude
2: Cultivating Optimism
3: Avoiding Overthinking and Social Comparison
4: Practicing Acts of Kindness
5: Nurturing Social Relationships
6: Developing Strategies for Coping
7: Learning to Forgive
8: Increasing Flow Experience
9: Savoring Life’s Joy
10: Committing to Your Goals
11: Practicing Religion and Spirituality
12: Taking Care of Your Body (Meditation, Physical Activity, Acting Like a Happy Person).
The problem is human beings are remarkably adept at becoming rapidly accustomed to sensory or physiologic changes, negative or positive. So, To Be Happy is not that simple but doable…
October 17, 2011
I decided to test what is stronger – my fear of height or my wish to overcome it. Fear of height is the result of knowledge of physical gravitation and even with a parachute behind my back, fear was in mind till the last moment before jump. I think, what helped me was was the coarse swearing I used to encourage myself. Have you tried it?! 🙂
So far, looks like I have the desire and strength to shut out my fear. Will I have them next time?
December 11, 2010
“Высшая степень понимания — понимать, о чём человек молчит”