Gravitation to the past

March 20, 2012

In the song “Beautiful Boy” John Lennon said:

Life is what happens to you
While you’re busy making other plans

I want to add that Life also happens while we are stuck in the past. We tend to overthink of offences, regrets, losses, occurred some time ago, and lose connection to reality.

Maybe, it is better to follow another quote from the same song:

Before you cross the street
Take my hand

Trust to somebody or something around you, because it can be Hand or/of Life…


Happiness homeostasis

October 21, 2011

In the book “The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want”, by Sonja Lyubomirsky, I found good theoretical basics and practical recommendations about Happiness homeostasis.

Our Happiness consists of the following three components:
Set Point, 50% – genetically/society determined happiness level.
Intentional Activities, 40% – how we behave, what we think, and what goals we set every day of our life.
Circumstances, 10% – the variance in our happiness levels is explained by differences in life circumstances or situations – that is, whether we are rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, beautiful of plain, married or divorced, etc.

While we cannot change share of Set point, we have some control over Circumstances. But we have full control over Intentional Activities component.
The book elaborates how we can exercise that control:
1: Expressing Gratitude
2: Cultivating Optimism
3: Avoiding Overthinking and Social Comparison
4: Practicing Acts of Kindness
5: Nurturing Social Relationships
6: Developing Strategies for Coping
7: Learning to Forgive
8: Increasing Flow Experience
9: Savoring Life’s Joy
10: Committing to Your Goals
11: Practicing Religion and Spirituality
12: Taking Care of Your Body (Meditation, Physical Activity, Acting Like a Happy Person).

The problem is human beings are remarkably adept at becoming rapidly accustomed to sensory or physiologic changes, negative or positive. So, To Be Happy is not that simple but doable…

Sky diving: Mental Anti-Gravitation vs. Physical Gravitation

October 17, 2011

I decided to test what is stronger – my fear of height or my wish to overcome it. Fear of height is the result of knowledge of physical gravitation and even with a parachute behind my back, fear was in mind till the last moment before jump. I think, what helped me was was the coarse swearing I used to encourage myself. Have you tried it?! 🙂
So far, looks like I have the desire and strength to shut out my fear. Will I have them next time?

The ultimate understanding is understanding of each other’s silences

December 11, 2010

“Высшая степень понимания — понимать, о чём человек молчит”

A Concept to measure a pain

November 28, 2010

God is a concept by which we measure our pain.

John Lennon

When I read this phrase I was struck how precisely John formulated my feelings during sad events, happening in our lives.

Virtual Déjà vu

November 28, 2010

Virtual Déjà vu as a paradox of past uncompleted activities refers to the point that in virtual reality we can do what we may not always do in real life. In virtual reality under nicknames, or without them, we are much more free to compose and publish music and poetry, introduce any crazy theory (I don’t mean myself), be different (in most cases, in better way) from ourselves in real lives.

And first thing to do in virtuality is to complete whatever is started/thought out, but not completed, in reality.

Mitigation of Black Swan events on individual level

November 28, 2010

The Black Swan idea came from the book “The Black Swan. The impact of the highly improbable.“, written by Nassim Nicholas Taleb.

Black Swan events are highly improbable events, like financial crisis, wars, happening time by time in our history.

The same book elaborates a little bit about mitigation strategy. These are quotes from the book:

“The idea that in order to make a decision you need to focus on consequences (which you can know) rather than the probability (which you can’t know) is the central idea of uncertainty.”

And the general rules are:

a. Make a distinction between positive contingencies and negative ones.
b. Don’t look for the precise and the local. Simply, do not be narrow-minded.
c. Seize any opportunity, or anything that looks like opportunity.
d. Beware of precise plans by governments. The interest of these civil servants is to survive and self-perpetuate.
e. Do not waste your time trying to fight forecasters, stock analysts, economists, and social scientists, except to play pranks on them.

But then, I started thinking of me and my family. Should I rebalance my pension money in something more safe than stocks and bonds? Should I buy a bigger car to survive a car accident? Or call my insurance agent and ask for critical illness insurance? What else should I do?

Probably, you have ideas and, probably, I will agree with them. But what about other Black Swan events?